Comments on: If You Can’t Be with the Job You Love, Then Love the One You’re With http://www.careerjockey.org/if-you-cant-be-with-the-job-you-love-then-love-the-one-youre-with/ Ride you career hard so it doesn't ride you Wed, 08 Sep 2010 13:07:43 +0000 hourly 1 By: Mary K Parker http://www.careerjockey.org/if-you-cant-be-with-the-job-you-love-then-love-the-one-youre-with/comment-page-1/#comment-2131 Mary K Parker Fri, 14 May 2010 15:45:17 +0000 http://careerjockey3.anicagroup.com/?p=2186#comment-2131 This lends credence to "hire for attitude." I agree, however, that some otherwise very competent people seem incapable of finding the silver lining in any position or responsibility they are given. These individuals may mature over time and I believe there is research that supports the "brain re-wiring" required for finding joy in learning. Thanks for the post; it's nice to know I'm not the only frustrated worker. This lends credence to “hire for attitude.” I agree, however, that some otherwise very competent people seem incapable of finding the silver lining in any position or responsibility they are given. These individuals may mature over time and I believe there is research that supports the “brain re-wiring” required for finding joy in learning. Thanks for the post; it’s nice to know I’m not the only frustrated worker.

]]> By: Jorge Lazaro Diaz http://www.careerjockey.org/if-you-cant-be-with-the-job-you-love-then-love-the-one-youre-with/comment-page-1/#comment-898 Jorge Lazaro Diaz Sun, 28 Feb 2010 20:57:02 +0000 http://careerjockey3.anicagroup.com/?p=2186#comment-898 Mary Mary, Attitude and disposition about work is so important and it can make a huge difference in how others perceive you. Thanks so much for commenting. Mary Mary, Attitude and disposition about work is so important and it can make a huge difference in how others perceive you. Thanks so much for commenting.

]]> By: marymary http://www.careerjockey.org/if-you-cant-be-with-the-job-you-love-then-love-the-one-youre-with/comment-page-1/#comment-897 marymary Sun, 28 Feb 2010 20:17:32 +0000 http://careerjockey3.anicagroup.com/?p=2186#comment-897 Some people make a career of hating their work, and appear to have marked their calendars for retirement on day one. Others are professionally malcontent. It is uphill fending off the negativity that these folks can put out, and they will not thank you for determining to enjoy your work. However, you should do all you can to make your day good, even if you are not where you wish to be or feel that you should be. I will make it even stronger: keep asking for more work, and focus on the areas where you think you are interested and/or can shine. Even if all of this fails (and it probably will not, because what employer complains of someone who wants to work hard), you will feel good about you. This will show in your life overall and help you to find a new position. On the other hand, if you sink into the quicksand of sulk, you will get results along those lines. - Some people make a career of hating their work, and appear to have marked their calendars for retirement on day one. Others are professionally malcontent. It is uphill fending off the negativity that these folks can put out, and they will not thank you for determining to enjoy your work. However, you should do all you can to make your day good, even if you are not where you wish to be or feel that you should be. I will make it even stronger: keep asking for more work, and focus on the areas where you think you are interested and/or can shine. Even if all of this fails (and it probably will not, because what employer complains of someone who wants to work hard), you will feel good about you. This will show in your life overall and help you to find a new position. On the other hand, if you sink into the quicksand of sulk, you will get results along those lines. -

]]> By: Jorge Lazaro Diaz http://www.careerjockey.org/if-you-cant-be-with-the-job-you-love-then-love-the-one-youre-with/comment-page-1/#comment-759 Jorge Lazaro Diaz Mon, 22 Feb 2010 18:00:16 +0000 http://careerjockey3.anicagroup.com/?p=2186#comment-759 I agree with you (Michelle) that not everyone understands this naturally. I'm slanted towards being optimistic, but I have also had to train myself. While in my twenties, I was severely impatient with work when it didn't go as I thought it should go. It really irked me such that it was difficult to see a job and love it without figuring out a way to eliminate the stuff I hated. My positivity was lacking a bit back then. (Oh how old age mellows us.) I find that all the encouragement from my side doesn't help others overcome how they feel about what they are facing. Interestingly enough, I run into people after not having seen them in a while and they have a completely different attitude about the same thing. Probably part of growing up (meaning getting older) or some cathartic experience that changed them profoundly. The net net of it, people learn when people learn and not a minute before that. I agree with you (Michelle) that not everyone understands this naturally. I’m slanted towards being optimistic, but I have also had to train myself. While in my twenties, I was severely impatient with work when it didn’t go as I thought it should go. It really irked me such that it was difficult to see a job and love it without figuring out a way to eliminate the stuff I hated. My positivity was lacking a bit back then. (Oh how old age mellows us.)

I find that all the encouragement from my side doesn’t help others overcome how they feel about what they are facing. Interestingly enough, I run into people after not having seen them in a while and they have a completely different attitude about the same thing. Probably part of growing up (meaning getting older) or some cathartic experience that changed them profoundly.

The net net of it, people learn when people learn and not a minute before that.

]]> By: Michelle http://www.careerjockey.org/if-you-cant-be-with-the-job-you-love-then-love-the-one-youre-with/comment-page-1/#comment-757 Michelle Mon, 22 Feb 2010 17:18:44 +0000 http://careerjockey3.anicagroup.com/?p=2186#comment-757 I think you are right on. However, my experience is that there are quite a few people who just don't have the mindset to practice this, and they seem unable to develop it. It seems that there's a sort of natural optimism, a coping mechanism, that some of us are born with and others are not. I have it, so it frustrates me when others don't; no amount of reasoning or coaching seems to help them develop it. But, insane optimist that I am, I keep trying;) I think you are right on. However, my experience is that there are quite a few people who just don’t have the mindset to practice this, and they seem unable to develop it. It seems that there’s a sort of natural optimism, a coping mechanism, that some of us are born with and others are not. I have it, so it frustrates me when others don’t; no amount of reasoning or coaching seems to help them develop it. But, insane optimist that I am, I keep trying;)

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